What classifies a "bully?"

I am getting so tired of accusations of me bullying others. First off, what is exactly "Bullying"? wikipedia defines it as "Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Also, Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person." or "exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons." He defines negative action as "when a person intentionally inflicts injury or discomfort upon another person, through physical contact, through words or in other ways."

Let's start from the beginning shall we. I was a victim of childhood bullying. I had people on a daily basis tease me because of the way I looked, the way I dressed, the type of music I listened to, and the types of parenting I had. It went on for the better part of my childhood until I decided one fateful day to make a stand against it. I have been called derogatory names, I have been ridiculed I have been mocked, and I have been physically abused, all over the fact that I was albino, and couldn't see well. Little did my bullies know was I grew up in an abusive home. My mother and father drank, and took drugs as a means to run from their past, and their withdrawals led them to be violent and emotionally abusive toward me. So I know the definition of bullying

Fast forward to today. I belong to an online community that is in conjunction to a game that I like and play on my downtime. I admit I am one of those that speaks my mind, is blunt, and doesn't hold back an ounce of truth if I can help it. Being repressed in an abusive home, and also being a Guns N Roses fan, has taught me to speak if I feel either something isn't right, or I don't agree with something. I say whatever I need to say, but there is no vulgarity in my forum posts at all, there is also no signs of ridicule. On my personal Facebook site I feel that is my personal space to vent about whatever I am feeling, and people can take that if they wish, or not. It is entirely their choice in the end to read the posts reply to them, or completely ignore them and either delete me or what not from their friends list. I will never repress my thoughts and emotions from anyone. that is just how I am.

So far on this online community I have been accused of being a bully, simply because I do not agree with certain posters, and either their chosen words, or actions at that time. I am sorry but your definition of "bully" is false. It is called a difference of opinion.

Some friends of mine and I have been invited to join a site, as a joke to another poster. Yet again I am accused of bullying, simply by being guilty by association. In the meantime while that site gets taken down, my personal e mails from another user surface. This inferiorates me, since first off this was a private conversation from months past, that have absolutely nothing to do with what they are fighting against in the here and now. I have been bullied by users on this online community by a "Freebie attack" (sending an ungodly amount of free gifts to my game account in attempt to freeze it or bog down my computer) along with horrible messages enclosed with the gifts. I did go to the forums and asked for this behavior to cease, and it did. Those people know what they did was wrong, but instead of later apologizing to me, they say I deserve it because I "rub people the wrong way" So far I haven't seen any of these people post, but I do feel that they know what they did was wrong, and they refuse to come back and either admit they were wrong, or simply apologizing for their actions. I have since dropped it.

After my e mails surface, I say my piece, that the owner of the site is a piece of scum, that is no better of a person than we are by airing private conversations from private e mails and groups. A lot of us have had our names slung in mud just so this idiot can have her glory of being a "good cyber citizen" She has since had her facebook account deactivated, and reinstated.

I post my opinions in the forums, and I automatically get accused of bullying, three times. I even have it in my status for the game "Having an opinion and a mind of my own does not make me a bully" But of course there are going to be certain people there who wish to push buttons. I have never, called anyone names, tried to take over power, chase after these people daily to ridicule them, or threaten them in the least bit. Their definition of Bully needs to be updated. One of these days they may call me a bully in a heated moment, and I may have a day in civil court for defamation, if I get any accounts revoked.

I have had it. I am not a bully, I am a truthful person, and if the truth hurts, Deal with it.